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FINDING Relationship HARMONY

WELCOME To FINDING Relationship HARMONY Conversation

Committed relationships are complex, requiring a considerable amount of patience, kindness, humour and to top it off, a whole bag full of mind reading!

When the high of first meeting settles into a comfortable rhythm, many issues begin to arise in the way couples relate to one another. This Blog ‘Finding Relationship Harmony’ will be exploring many aspects in relationships that create tensions and misunderstanding. I do not profess to be a complete expert but I do draw upon over 20 years as a Natural Therapist / Counsellor to create a conversation of balanced perspectives, minus blame games with an invitation for others to engage on the blog so all readers might learn about some of the issues we all face in our daily experiences when juggling, family, marriage, work and unexpected life changes. This blog is backed up by ‘soon to be published’ books on sexuality, intimacy, finances and pregnancy. It is my hope that if some of the larger issues are raised and readers find solace or healing through the shared wisdom and books then this will allow your minds to settle on an Inner Path of Self Awareness and Contemplation. Fractured minds and hearts cannot easily settle, leaving any exploration of the spiritual self on the shelf. If day-to-day issues can be explored and normalised then I believe it opens up a huge door to energy, inspiration, empowerment, daring to dream and transformation through action.

As a spiritual teacher at the heart of all I do it is my wish to lift the burdens of humanity by sharing my knowledge. Please join with me on this journey.

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Life is a Maze but can be AMAZING!

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How did we get here? Why do we do the things we do? What propels us forward into action? All these questions,  yet the answers are not always forthcoming or not as much as we would like them to be. Instead we run around in circles like a perpetual hamster wheel wondering how to get off the wild ride.

Looking back at life one would wonder how to navigate the tricky  maze we call human living. At every corner there are new decisions filled with potent possibility. Which road to take ? Where do I want to end up? Alternatively we are consumed with thoughts of constant comparing, competing or jealousy fuelled antics arising from fear of not being enough, gross hypnotisation from every media fuelled outlet telling us we have to be more to survive, be the ultimate success story and navigate life.

But what if, what if, travelling in a more heart centred way, removing fear and refusing to be aligned to the ‘tic toc’ madness overtaking every element of society,  could be the realty you are looking for? To find that space where your soul hungers for inner quietude? What if it can be found by stepping out of the maze of uniform thinking and acting. Would you do it? Would that interest you? If so, then begin thinking about the state of mind you had as a child before society and adult conditioning gripped hold of your innocent psychology. What did you love doing? What made your heart and imagination sing? What dreams did you have for the future version of yourself? What did you do with yourself when no one was listening?

It is often in these moments of questioning or deep contemplation when you feel life has derailed from your core authentic expression that a truth about who you are,  can show itself. Listen to the innocence within, begin the conversation and allow the prompting to arise from the depths of yourself. It is this very process that can remind you on what really matters to you personally, not that which is said to be valued by society or family. Action is then required to reclaim authentic alignment so you can live a life you truly value.

It is this same pondering and life reviewing that has on countless occasions helped me navigate some of my most troubling times. I know now that I always must have at least one element of my childhood dreams running alongside the adult life to keep me feeling in a state of balance and joy. 

What did I do as a child when no one was looking, you might ask? I danced and sang to myself and spoke a multitude of pretend foreign languages and spoke to the animals and plants, mind to mind. To that end it does not surprise me now that I love to travel the world and dance to unwind or feel connected to an unseen universe filled with a communication that cannot be seen. The intuitive self and sense of connection to ‘All That Is’, was born all those years ago. Yet sadly I suppressed my singing for such a long time but as I removed the blockages and sabotaging beliefs of fear, my ‘Inner Song’ is finding the confidence to come out to play again. I also discovered how much I loved personal time on my own in those younger years yet my adult version has not always allowed for that space.

My question to you is, What did you do as a child? Can you hear the child whispers and honour those dreams? Are you willing to re-embrace that aspect of yourself to step out of the perpetual maze you are trapped in and allow life to be,  truly AMAZING once again?

Celia Fuller- Wholistic Lifestyle Consultations can help you remove negative beliefs, fears  programmings and societal conditionings hidden in the recesses of the subconscious mind so that you can once again find your personal liberation, Your Soul Note. 

Consultations available in person or Via phone or Skype link up. 

If You Wake Up The Body, The Mind Follows

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My brain works better when I exercise. I wish I could remember that everyday but sometimes an internal force takes over and like a belligerent two year old, I resist my own prompting. I know whenever I have dedicated myself to a goal it has always helped overcome the resistant voice that arises.
Our bodies are amazing machines meant to be moved and worked. As a wonderful consequence of physical activity, neurones in the brain fire up and communicate back and forth creating pathways of awareness educating the body how to accomplish fine tuned motor skills of precision movements along with stimulated hormone release and internal organ activity. Although we often allow the mind to become dull resulting in the body following suite it’s important to keep pushing yourself to find a goal that works with your unique psychology and start.
If you wish to travel and see amazing sites upon huge mountain tops then begin mountain training now so you don’t gasp for breath and hate the opportunity when it arises. Prepare the mind with a vision of travel and the body will follow. If you love Buddhist temples in Thailand then begin step training because there are thousands that ascend and descend.
If you are overweight and not fussed with the typical aerobics, gym training or cross training as a path to your goal then change the goal post with the learning of a useful skill. Learn a self defence martial art to build confidence to face the world. The weight might just magically come off anyway and if not, you are far more flexible, confident and stronger than before you started.
If depression is your haunted reality, will yourself to move so at least the body is happy even if your mind is not. You will be amazed how the mind lifts up out of those darker thoughts and your life load feels much easier.
So set yourself a goal to help you achieve little wins in the journey of life. If this is difficult to do, find a mentor, training partner or seek help with your mind that keeps finding excuses. Remember you are not alone. We all have bodies that need training and minds that need taming.
Celia Fuller- Wholistic Lifestyle Counselling
Www.wholistic-lifestyles.com.au
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Speaking through the Silence

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The BOOK that causes people to recoil, hide their heads, peek at the cover and then open the pages. The subject matter does seem to create quite a stir but for those who have read and purchased it, their personal intimate lives are turning around for both men and women. The title is ‘The Secrets Out! Men and Sex, Why Women Say No.’ It is on Amazon as a Kindle E-book and in Paperback.

The final decision behind finally writing this book was through the insistence of my clients throughout Australia due to the sharing of my knowledge on this subject matter during personal sessions. Ultimately for me, I decided if I can normalise the common human experience and have people feel less alone through their relationships journey then this will lessen anxiety, self judgement, social comparison and allow more energy to be focussed elsewhere.

Many have discovered it is a great book to have laying around as you never know who might look inside. Within the pages is truthful content for both men and women as I share with frank honesty, intimate insight along with some humour, the secret thoughts and concerns of the two genders as have been expressed to me.

Readers are Confirming …The Book Works! 🙂 As any author, I could go on and on about my passion on this subject and the other books I have written but for now I will just leave it to your curiosity and I remain open to receiving your feelings to add more content on this matter. So far men have been very generous in asking me to add a few more topics within, so much so that I am beginning to compile another book or in the very least a blog post.

Oh and any reviews would be so gratefully received. Thanks Regards Celia

Books can be personally signed, purchased and posted through private message.

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Writing is Like Training for A Black Belt

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During my recent trip through Europe with my first book, I came to realise that the sheer magnitude and effort put into writing a book is similar to the years I spent training to be a Black Belt in the Hung Suen Wing Chun Kung Fu system. The similarities to achieve both those goals are endless.

My brain exhausted from all the steps I have walked up in France reminded me of the mountain of work I have put into writing, editing, researching and finally publishing. They also remind me of the earlier weight training, gruelling sparring rounds, at times seven days a week training schedule, mountain climbs and injuries I had to process through to finally reach my black belt goal. No one could do either of these tasks for me, some how I had to find the focus to finally put my dreams into action. On both occasions it has taken procrastination, a private dare and then the need to seek out the professional mentors who would guide me on the correct path.

My Kung Fu Master will be the first to admit that he did not make me a Black Belt. I did that myself but what he provided was an environment where I could gain many of the tools through his instruction, be part of a team all moving through towards the same goals and finally seeing other people achieve before me as a path of inspiration to keep going. Added to that I had to find an inner reservoir of strength, patience and persistence to achieve each gaol as it arose, not to mention a few private session to fine-tune my abilities. Some situations that eventuated I did not even anticipate would be an issue ended up causing me to question my choices to keep going. Injuries were one of them including, black eyes, blows to the head and near knock-outs. Of course this was not often, but enough for someone who was over forty and responsible for kids and running a business, to second guess my choices. My mind tried to be my enemy, at every turn, attempting to convince me to stop. The mind became my biggest battle-ground not the training schedule.

This has been the same for the book writing process. When the going gets tough and out of hand my mind tells me to “Forget it”, “ You don’t need the stress,” “Your life is good without the books so why push yourself like this?” Yet somehow I kept pushing on. Reflecting on my achievements I realised the sheer determination and discipline to push through with my books against so many barriers and issues were actually qualities cultivated when I went through my Kung Fu training. All those years of retraining my brain, actually aided me in pushing through with completing my books.

Added to that I went into a mentorship programme that held what I thought was a lot of promise but found it ended up being, not exactly as I first thought. I already had multiple books partially written but did not quite know what to do next. The mentorship created a platform of some knowledge on the subject, enough to get me started and once started, I could smell the success in the air and found I pushed on even when I did not feel the support was fully behind me or provided what I believed I paid for. But perhaps it actually did, because it led me towards a general path of knowledge, gave me the belief I could succeed and placed other people who also had published within my sphere of interaction, all which helped galvanise my mind into action. In the end however, it was up to me to make it happen just like was with my Black Belt. A mentor cannot do it for you. When you want to achieve anything in life you must be your own Master and Commander. Others just show it is possible.

For me, I would love to think that achieving a black belt as a middle aged, overweight women pushing the boundaries of an extremely physical pursuit, can give rise to some inspiration within others. Knowing that this path also helped my mental capacity and belief in oneself to then go onto claim authorship status has excited and inspired me and I can only hope my life can encourage others to also pursue their dreams.

 

 

 

Dreams are Like Boomerangs, They Always Come Back

Boomerang BlogWhen we dream, a thought form is created from our deep imagination couched within our soul. The dream is formulated and embedded with thoughts, feelings, desires and potential outcome. In fact every thought we have that is filled with emotion becomes a dream. Sometime colourful and exciting,  filled with optimism and sometimes filled with dreary, dread. Our subconscious does not discriminate from good or bad, it creates whatever consumes your mind the most.

When you allow your mind to be driven by untamed thought and emotions these will eventually create a dream state full of power that sends forth the message  out to the universe through time and space before coming back to you like a well thrown boomerang. Each consuming thought is like throwing another boomerang out into the ether. Some are thrown far and wide others come back quicker, landing back with a sudden thud back into your current reality.

When you dream, there is a latent power in you that can imagine the amazing and impossible and suddenly all you have thought, indeed becomes possible. People all over the world keep fulfilling their dreams and passions by staying in a state of openness and receptivity. They dare to take action in ways others fear. Many of those people understand that Living their PASSION, where their heart resonates and communicates with the Spirit energy is the true path of powerful manifestation. This is so true. This state of mind or Beingness is not just for the famous or fortunate few. This capacity is within each and everyone of us. The only difference between the idea of success and optimism is some people throw well aimed boomerangs due to clear mind and intention and others throw many that run into each other and cancel the earlier ones out. This process of cancellation only occurs because the mind and imagination is cluttered and filled with deep seated subconscious programmes and patterns inherited from childhood and social influences.

To discover a place of peace, clear mind and untapped potential, a disciplined mind and steady emotional state should be pursued. Our thoughts become our reality. Our dreams always come back to us. Meditation, often called mindfulness is a practice that anyone can do to slowly create a space within oneself in order to discover the true nature of your thoughts, desires and intentions that arise. Hidden within this space is the wisdom of insight that can show you the true nature of  what we commonly call ‘Self”.

It is from this place you come to  understand that physical manifestation of events, opportunities and desires all first began somewhere deep within the individualised psyche. It is your responsibility how well you learn to throw your thoughts and feelings out to the Universe. It is your responsibility on what comes back.

So I ask you this  question….

What kind of boomerang would you like to throw?

Life Reflections – The Changing Nature

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Today as I reflect on life and living I note in this older body many more aches and pains. The impermanence of youth becomes a moment of focus as my maturing, hopefully wiser self reflects. My mind immediately drifts back to yesteryear when once before, in actual fact 30 years prior I explored the romantic city of Paris, solo and continued through Europe. The body I inhabited then was full of energy with a mind naïve to the harshness this world can offer. I travelled in a perpetual world of wonder and awe of people, places and adventures. In many ways not much has changed yet the body notes more time has travelled on the joints.

Where once I walked the streets all day, tourist icon after tourist icon then danced the night away with new transient friends, now I feel this body full of aches and pains as I stagger from place to place. Perhaps the consistent 4.30am wake times ready to hit the streets of London and now Paris early before all the other tourists has a partial role to play in my discomfort. It may be the delayed opening of the Eiffel Tower by 45minutes when we were one of the first in line having waited already an hour or perhaps it is the common cold that has hit my lungs making me drag oneself around determined to DO our trip. It does not really matter the how or the why, what really struck me was the realisation that life is always in a perpetual state of flux. Anacha, anacha

( buddhist saying meaning changing changing)One moment health, youth and vitality then next slow progression through stages towards a tiring older body or sometimes a rude and sudden decline in health will afflict all people everywhere eventually.

This changing nature of our life is not just bodily changes but also affects mind perception as each year the human brain takes on more information and keeps feeding it back through a continuous loop. Dependent on whether fear or negativity drives you or faith, hope and love does, then this will determine what will move through your feedback loop. Just becoming a mother changes the way I look at begging women in the streets and wonder how many children they have at home, yet when younger, I felt amazed and sad at hunger but not feeling the same depth of connection. I note time and life experiences have adjusted my view and personal emotional reaction to all I come across. I am constantly changing.

I listen to news of Greece with the potential meltdown of their economy and dollar value and know that soon millionaires could soon be stripped of all their accumulated wealth just as our Australian farmers are stripped of their farms through drought and lack of bankers support. That in such an event depression will replace optimism because humans place so much importance on the physical world being the only world of importance. Yet when wealth and health is gone what is left?

Life has a strange way of reducing people back to the core basics to explore the real value of life, family and connections. More importantly sudden life changes will challenge the relationship you have with yourself. Who are you when youth and vitality has gone and you falsely believe you no longer influence the world around you because society fills the mind with this ideology? Who are you if your health is retrograding and you cannot be the tower of strength others have looked up to and depended on? Who are you when you are no longer mother or father to those looking up to you, wife or husband to someone you loved and knows you, no longer a sexual being who can bring life into the world, or no longer the great influential professional no one now knows because you chose retirement. These are the essential questions that arise in the psychology as each person struggles to accept the changing nature of the reality we all live in a consequently forces us into a new changed relationship with one self. The saying ‘Change is the ONLY Constant’ is indeed a powerful message.

So today I ask myself and I ask you. Who are you really if you are not all those labels that keep changing? What is behind the breath when life is extinguished? Do you continue to survive and thrive in a new reality? If so then what is the essence that continues yet changes from form to form? If we are Not the Body then what are we?

I know one thing for sure. Whatever this essence is that animates this body it is powerful and glorious yet often restricted by the human identification and limited mind concepts we adhere to as a collective consciousness. If we could only strip back the layers of false labels and reach deep into the individuated core essence, your Soul Note, then it is here all people would find a huge measure of self acceptance and embrace the life changes as they hit. Acceptance does not mean becoming a victim, rather it is to see clearly the nature of life and move with the ‘Flow’ while being the best you can be at every given moment.

So with that in mind, today I shall WILL my feet to walk the corridors of the Louvre where 30 years before I could only look longingly from the outside with a backpack strapped to my back and a lack of funds precluding my entry. So there you have the change again. My youthful self had the willingness yet not the finances, today the older self may have some unfit aches and pains yet I have the financial means to finally step across those doors and enjoy other people’s creativity.

Life is crazy, Life is good, Its all just a process. A temporary one at that!

Anacha Anacha – Changing Changing

For those who wish to strip back their layers of ego identification and delve beyond the masks of living then meditation becomes an essential life skill in your personal discovery tool kit.

 

 

Balancing Love, Work and Family for Success

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Secrets to Work and Career Success is found within the family structure behind the scenes. Emotional stressors influence how efficiently an individual can process a series of tasks or think ahead and plan, yet modern society keeps pressuring employees to work more hours or number crunch their time into pockets of unreasonable expectations. Everyday people are melting down due to  relationships turning sour, mortgage anxiety, fatigue and lack of community connectedness. Depression is accepted as the new normal because everyone feels alone and isolated. Seriously, do we really want to keep living with this insane life imbalance?

How is it that society promotes constant marketing strategies to entice struggling people to buy more, pay later and work harder for your family because if you don’t you will be considered a failure. Then companies bemoan the high rates of stress leave as the pressure builds for everyone to perform at maximum output on a constant basis never listening to the bio-rhythms of the human body and mind. Then a worsening effect is seen in the community and whole generations are damaged and affected. Today I am on my high horse feeling its time the work, life, love balance should tip the other way in favour of emotionally nourishing the home and family first. Forget the glitz and glamour of costly boats, caravan, cars and furnishings. The stress of debt to gift such luxuries creates its own stress laden issue. Discover the Joy of Living with Simplicity.

Sadly many men falsely believe woman need all those luxuries to make her happy and content. He works his butt off to provide this in the hope he will be met with a woman displaying a kinder demeanour within the home. He drives himself to do better working more to meet those perceived demands only to have it backfire on a constant basis because the harder he works the less PRESENT he is in the home, meaning he is not emotionally available to his partner or children. This becomes a recipe for disaster if the cycle continues. EMOTIONAL availability equals support. High levels of home distress leak into the working life of an individual often giving rise to reactionary behaviours, lowered confidence at work, sabotaging attitudes, boardroom egos and women unable to rise above their glass ceiling.

In order to bring a balance back into the work and home life one must begin to see the hidden influences that play havoc on our psychologies. As a society we owe it to each other to find a pathway back to living with wholeness and balance, with each supporting and loving the other. When the perfect balance is struck a vital energy of goodness pervades all decisions and interactions making a love union and children feel particularly blessed. So where do all these stresses come from? Mostly people would say finances, children and spouses, yet in my mind this can be a rather simplistic appraisal. The problems are far more deeper reaching. In fact it requires delving into the created subconscious thought patterns of people in their developmental years through family influences and that of the community. When viewing from this angle it becomes clearer as to what is motivating behaviour and stress responses.

What that Looks Like – A Lesson in Basic Psychology

The first community a person experiences is the family they grow up in. Within that framework there are numerous parental expectations, principles of conduct, traumatic events and sibling rivalry not to mention school blowouts that cause family chaos. Each micro event  of your life has the capacity to create belief systems about the world you live in. These beliefs sink into the vast memory banks of the subconscious mind ready to be played out physically again and again in order to keep you safe. What once worked effectively for a developing child does not aid the grown adult yet the childlike phobias and behaviours keep rising to the surface like a  scratched CD creating unusual choice reactions and behaviours. Loved ones always see these reactions in magnified forms and then dependant on their own conditionings will react in similar or vastly different ways. Partnership friction can be born through this process.

Secondly there are  work relationships you desperately try to understand while navigating the acquisition of  new skills trying to avoid others seeing occasional fumbling around or sense of inadequacy all the while learning how to manage your weekly budget. Work life strains add to the payload of issues arising within the psychology demanding a need to process events and evaluate where you stand within the framework. Then Love enters the game.

Love is divine and intense, full of joy, yet unsettling paranoia seems to lurk in the background of the mind, never quite sure if you are approved of or accepted at face value for Who you Truly are at a Soul level. So then in order to be more loveable and acceptable a whole garden variety of strange behaviours often ensues creating false masks of identity. In fact by the time you come of age for relationships you are already a basket full of unresolved emotional  states and have forgotten who you are or why you do the things you do. Sometimes in the midst of all that exhausting chaos you find yourself in a committed relationship.

So here you are now in a relationship juggling work and play along with mish mashing a whole host of emotional baggage together as partners, living in an emotional wilderness trying to remain in a state of internal equilibrium.  How is it possible to balance your life and remain successfully functioning human being? First you must ask yourself what your personal measure of success  looks like.  Does it involve bright shiny gems and fancy cars, while debt eats your insides or is it filled with a vibrant family life of healthy inter-relationships yet there is less financial freedom in daily living? Do you feel forced to have to work just to keep paying for a lifestyle that could end up backfiring in the divorce courts because you come home each night stressed out of your brain and uncommunicative? Or could you dare to have all the positive aspects without the debt or financial woes also enjoying laughter in a family life? I am here to tell you that it is possible to have both if that is your deepest wish. The journey is not easy but it is possible. Above all else there is a need to decide how important your relationships with a loved partner is to you and act accordingly by cherishing and making decisions that help you both find inner balance of healthy living, making sure external factors of work and career don’t collide with nurturing the commitment you have to each other. Remember it is your partner who made a life commitment to stand by your side and lift you up, not your workplace, extended family or friends. Decide where you align your loyalties.

Solutions

First it takes complete honesty as to your position in the home and expectations you place on yourself. Then there is a need to view a partner with consideration, accepting their differences by acknowledging the life events they grew up from has created a unique life perspective different from your own. In fact every person you ever meet all have a past,  a story that is unique to them and this story influences their behaviour. Sometimes when they act in a challenging manner towards you, it is not really about you at all. It is a reaction within their own head and inner child psychology. It’s their story. So you have to make a personal decision to understand why you act and react to certain stimuli that presents in your world by taking responsibility and action, allowing and encouraging your partner to do the same. This may take a variety of pathways for different people. Psychology, Counselling, Hypnotherapy, Kiniesiology, Reading self help books, Spiritual Healing and Insight or Energetic Healing can all create an atmosphere for a person to open up to hidden locked memories of the subconscious and begin decoding the messages that arise and cause reactions and behaviours that might be deemed undesirable. Some may find solace within the practise of mindfulness meditation knowing the power of a silent mind can drag up emotional memories for speedy processing and personal insight. Whichever path you take it should be considered part of an imperative health regime in order to create a wholistic lifestyle approach for greater life-love vitality.

Written by Celia Fuller – Living Musically  Finding Harmony

Nationally Known Inspirational Speaker, Author, Spiritual Teacher,  Natural Therapist and  Wholistic Lifestyle Consultant / Counsellor (  Phone & Skype Sessions)

Business of Wholistic Lifestyles, Author of an amazing Relationship Rescue Book focussing on Intimacy and Open Communication within Relationships

Title : ” The Secrets Out!Men and Sex, Why Women Say No”

Available on Amazon

 

 

 

 

I Listened to My ‘Soul Note” and Now, I Am a Published Author!

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I Believe you were born with a unique ‘Soul Note’, a powerful energy signature that defines who you are. By Aligning with this Core aspect of yourself through the practice of meditation and mindfulness and emulating qualities of kindness, openness, flexibility, non-judgment, awareness, compassion and love will ensure your ability to read your personal life situations in a positive manner. Each step will be met with optimism, knowing new and unexpected paths have magic, synchronicities and chance meetings all coalescing to call your dreams home in perfect timing, not when the human mind or society thinks they should come home but when your higher, wiser Soul Note consciousness decides it is the right and fertile time for its completion. You cannot hasten the timing or the experience, only trust the path is set and keep working on anything that excites you in the meantime. You will be amazed and surprised at how your life maps out in all its glory.

Living a life of passion is not always easy, as many people believe they have to drop everything they are doing to follow their dreams. In some instances this is true yet in other situations your inner most Being knows you need an accumulation of experiences to be able to hold your life passion steadily and will thus keep shifting your focus until you have gathered all you need to make that flying leap. When you fall into imagination and dare to dream a new and different reality or version of yourself, an amazing mixture of hope and possibility enters the world around you. From this vantage point a call to action ensues whereby you, the dreamer must then begin to tread a steady path towards that hoped for outcome. As you progress towards the areas of expertise YOU THINK YOU NEED, often there appear many other paths and seeming derailments to that goal. It is not until much further down the path you realise your unique story has been unfolding. Even when you think your childhood or earlier dreams have become impossible suddenly they unfold before your eyes in the craziest, convoluted ways you could never have even thought up or conjured in your earlier imaginings.

There are some dreams that begin whimsical and remain illusive with no true drive to see them fulfilled and other dreams have power and potency behind them as though preset from a different place and time, whispering of a destiny hidden in time waiting for you in the future. Either way, how do we know if a dream is worthy of pursuing? The secret is in the excitement, joy and wonder you hold in the Core of your Being at the mere possibility of the idea eventuating. The unwavering knowing it is already yours, descending into every atom and molecule along with a decision to begin on a path towards your future. Secretly the dreams of the little Child-You never leaving your side for long will be your constant companion until one day you wake up and realize you are at your destination.

My Private Writing Dream Turning into Reality

I was a child who dreamt of writing and at the age of eleven fell in love with the power of words due to a little red haired boy called Ian, who decided I was his girlfriend. I met him at an interstate school camp where we exchanged shy smiles and somehow at the end of the camp exchanged addresses. From his distant home he found the courage to write to me. Enfolded within the envelope was a tiny hand written letter finishing with a poem of love to me in his simple grade six scrawl. I never knew words could be so compelling, filled with feelings of intensity transferred from pen to paper. I secretly held my treasure and kept his poems to myself, reading them daily mesmerized that someone in the world cared for me. I wrote in return in hope one day I would see him again when our two schools would combine through high school. In the meantime I stumbled upon a poetry competition, which inspired me to write and send in my first poem. To the amazement of myself, I won the competition and received a certificate. Sacredly I held that news close to my chest deciding it was too precious to share with ridiculing siblings. I also felt a little vulnerable and exposed wondering who would be reading it. Eventually I shared the news with my mother and my boyfriend from afar. To have won this large competition filled me with fire and the love of words on paper. My writing dream, especially poetry writing was born.

What happened to my little red-haired believer? Well tragically the dreams to meet at high school were broken by my mother who decided to send me to a city girls school. I had to inform Ian by letter that I no longer could remain his girlfriend as it would be impossible to ever see him or meet up with him again due to the long distance travel I would be subjected to with these new plans. Maturely at the delicate age of eleven I cut off the relationship so he could find another lovely girl who would undoubtedly become the recipient of those treasured poems and heart felt emotions. Ahh the horrors and pain of youth. Fate would have it that I managed to convince my mother of the detest I had for the new school and finally she relented and allowed me to resume study at the local high school yet when I finally set eyes on the boy with the sun in his locks he had a blond girl enfolded within his arms.

Now nearly forty years on I have written song lyrics, one of which came tenth in Australia at a song-writing contest. I have read some of my wilder poems at events and now have finally published a book. It is not the exact subject I had in mind as a girl (‘ The Secrets Out! Men and Sex, Why Women Say No’) but it is my first published book. Yet in the wings I also have a book of poetry, over 200 of them in fact, written twelve years ago and finally compiled into a book nearly ready to be published called ‘Kind Words Uplift.’ Watch this space…………

So needless to say the dream to write has travelled across a lot of time and vast experiences to finally arrive at a destination that now has me, Celia Fuller, published. Never in my wildest dreams did I envision I would be writing a self help book on relationships and sexuality, instead I thought my first forays into writing would be more in line with the spiritual and meditational aspects of my life path yet here I am as surprised as everyone else who knows me. I am sure up ahead those books will finally be written but for now my Soul Note knows what I need and I trust it will guide me to my destination.

 

 

 

 

 

 

Intimacy and the Female Body

 

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A Message to Men

A woman’s Whole Body is a living breathing Sexual Organ. This fact should never be underestimated or understated. The surface of her skin is extremely reactive to the RIGHT style of touch. It awakens even more when treated with mindfulness and loving awe. What does that actually mean, “Touched with mindfulness”? Well, when approaching a woman you should be literally drinking in the sight and feeling of her soul essence, totally aware and acknowledging her as a living, breathing, feeling consciousness and a full blown personality, living a life along side you on the planet, not just as an object to have sexual fun with only satisfying your personal needs. Full sexual mindfulness is the way a woman prefers to love her man. Too often I hear a women’s concern of feeling like an object that is brought out to play and used to fulfil a man’s mounting desires and then seemingly discarded without thinking she may have her own sexual appetites needing fulfilment.

When you approach her intimately she awaits for the moment when hoping and praying you will finally SEE her and FEEL her life essence by the way you approach. Slowing down, lingering with touch and sensual kisses allows her inner fires to build with gentle loving desire. When you look deeply into her eyes and in your mind acknowledge the special place she has in your life, she will FEEL this transfer of communication as though two minds and hearts have entwined and merged. This is her language of love. It is this depth of connection she yearns for in the bedroom, even leading up to the bedroom. All other approaches work for a time but usually dissolve into dissatisfaction.

It is the whole body loving of lingering touch moving through from face, neck, arms, hand, legs, feet, breasts, abdomen, face, inside thighs, face, breasts, stroking higher up the thigh, ears and neck all connected by loving strokes and kissing that will help her body begin to open up like a flower to your every move and the pelvic region will rock with gentle encouraging moans. The mindful art of incorporating her whole body are the  actions and considerations that will, light her fire.

Sexual progression will not work if you kiss, nipple twist, poke and grope in delicate places before  plunging the lever in as though you are some mechanic on steroids! You are not a mechanic, so stop it! Well some of you might be. You need to realise the vagina is like a flower, it needs to be gently awakened so it unfolds and allows a deep and satisfying end game. To awaken the vagina you must first awaken by attentiveness, ALL other body parts first! Not to be approached as some clever formula in your mind that will always work because, a man with only sexual release on his mind is transparent through the way he touches. A woman picks up the vibe and will shut down the playground.

Lovemaking really requires a man to feel vulnerable to his arising emotions and be OK with them being seen and felt by his lover. Remember she wants to see you at the depths of your core just as she is waiting for you to see her. When she feels this depth connection her availability increases with enthusiasm. In the end if a woman can experience these depths with a partner then there will be more times when she will also enjoy a quicker, hot and heavy fix. The two go together.

Allow your lives to enjoy Sexual Harmony and Create Music together. For similar topics Read  My Published book. ‘The Secrets Out! Men and Sex, Why Women Say No.’

Its an extremely frank book written for women and men to understand each other at the intimate practical level. Sharing the stories and concerns of thousands, from over 20 years of experience as a Wholistic Counsellor and Natural Therapist.

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Flowers, A gift of Love or Guilt

 

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Flowers, A Gift of Love or Guilt

Sometimes men overdo the gift of flowers or give them at the wrong time. Marketing and TV shows tell them that this is what women want. They are also told the gifting of flowers will gain them instant forgiveness and fix any wrongs that have occurred. They have been led to believe flowers are the winning formula for making up after ugly fights and damaging words. This, however, is not the truth. Yes, many women love flowers, as they are delicate like we are, but when they arrive constantly after a fight and there is no change in future behaviour, they lose their healing balm and only become an agitation. If flowers arrive mysteriously followed by a guilty look on a man’s face, then there will be more questions surrounding the gift. However, beautiful spontaneous flowers can really create a new connection of loving, especially if the man has added his own words in a card, revealing he has made an extra deep thinking effort—not just a grab and run fix.  I cannot stress enough how much women actually revel in the idea her man has stopped pursuing  his needs and interests long enough to take the time and purchase a card and actually write some deep feeling or even funny words in it. They will soak  up all those words you hand wrote cherishing each word, filled with the idea that she is important enough in the male mind for him to stop and take time to think about her. They do not bin the cards after reading like men do. Women are forgiving and lenient, so even a grab and run can have a positive effect.

Flowers in Relationships

What Flowers CAN”T do But Men CAN 

“Sadly, flowers can’t wash the dishes, vacuum the house, do the ironing or clean the oven, bathroom or toilet. They can’t make the lunches, feed the pets, make and serve dinner, replenish the beer or cup of tea, clean the sheets, chase perpetual washing all over the house, fold the clothes, pack the clothes away and do the shopping. They can’t be called on to be a taxi for all the family, speak to schoolteachers, help with homework and tutoring, give a massage, give one hour of free time for a women to emotionally prepare for sex, take a screaming baby for a walk or drive, care for ageing parents or wake up through the night soothing a stressed child.

Gifting flowers can bring a smile to the face and warmth to the heart, encouraging a woman to keep going. However with a generous, thoughtful helping hand to lighten your partner’s workload, an alternative path to better relations and less resentment might appear. This is one of the female formulas to increase potential intimacy.”  Subject matter covered in, my book  The Secrets Out! Men and Sex, Why Women Say No

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FINDING Relationship HARMONY

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WELCOME To – FINDING Relationship HARMONY Conversations

Committed relationships are complex, requiring a considerable amount of patience, kindness, humour and to top it off, a whole bag full of mind reading!

When the high of first meeting settles into a comfortable rhythm, many issues begin to arise in the way couples relate to one another. This Blog ‘Finding Relationship Harmony’ will be exploring many aspects in relationships that create tensions and misunderstanding. I do not profess to be a complete expert but I do draw upon over 20 years as a Natural Therapist / Counsellor to create a conversation of balanced perspectives, minus blame games. This is an invitation for others to engage on the blog so readers might learn about some of the issues we all face in our daily experiences when juggling, family, marriage, work and unexpected life changes. This blog is backed up by ‘soon to be published’ books on sexuality, intimacy, finances and pregnancy. It is my hope that if some of the larger issues are raised and readers find solace or healing through the shared wisdom and books, then this will allow your minds to settle on an Inner Path of Self Awareness and Contemplation. Fractured minds and hearts cannot easily settle, leaving any exploration of the spiritual self on the shelf. If day-to-day issues can be explored and normalised then I believe it opens up a huge door to energy, inspiration, empowerment, daring to dream and transformation through action.

As a spiritual teacher at the heart of all I do it is my wish to lift the burdens of humanity by sharing my knowledge. Please join with me on this journey.

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